The 6-minute read that will instantly lower your shoulders
Let's skip the sugar-coating. The holidays are a lot.
You're either still dealing with the Thanksgiving aftermath or you're already in the full-throttle noise of the season. The sales, the events, the exhausting pressure to be on 24/7. It's relentless.
And we all fall for the same trap. We chase the Big Moments: the perfect feast, the picture-frame memory, the "this is what it's all about" scene we've been sold since childhood. But those moments are demanding. They ask for your last bit of energy, your patience, and that forced smile you wear when all you really want is five minutes alone with a cup of tea.
Here's what I want you to know: the small stuff is actually the big stuff.
What Your Stress Hormone Is Actually Doing
We tend to think of stress like a monster we need to defeat with a week-long silent retreat. But stress is just a chemical response. A release of cortisol. The more demands pile up, the more your nervous system signals danger, and the higher that cortisol count climbs.
Here's the part most people don't know: chronic stress keeps cortisol elevated for hours, sometimes days. Cortisol itself isn't the villain. It's what helps you wake up in the morning and respond to real threats. But when it stays elevated too long, things start to unravel.
Studies show that even low-grade, ongoing stress (like, say, holiday pressure) can keep your cortisol levels 20-30% higher than normal. When that happens, it disrupts your sleep, weakens your immune system, increases inflammation, and makes it harder for your body to regulate blood sugar.
That wired-but-exhausted feeling? That's your body stuck in alert mode with no off switch.
So what's the fix? It's probably smaller than you think.
Enter the Tiny Joy
Tiny joys are simple moments that don't require an itinerary or a plane ticket. The warmth of your mug. A snuggle with your pet. A few breaths that actually fill your lungs.
When you pause for even 30 seconds of intentional calm, you're sending a direct message to your nervous system: "Hey, we're safe here." Your body releases less stress hormone, your heart rate slows down, and your perpetually shrugged-up shoulders finally soften. You hit the reset button.
The science backs this up. Research from UC Berkeley found that brief moments of calm (even as short as 15 seconds) can lower inflammatory markers in the body. Your immune system literally responds to these small moments of peace.
And here's what makes tiny joys so powerful: they don't require planning, coordination, or anyone else's buy-in. You don't need things to go right. You can access them right now, exactly as things are.
Stop chasing the perfect "holiday cheer" and start noticing the tiny joys that are already there.
The 2-Minute Joy Check-In
We often try to force a mood change, which usually just makes us angrier and more stressed (ask me how I know). A true body reset happens through small, steady cues. Little reminders that the world can wait a second.
Here's the practice: Ask yourself right now, "What's one tiny joy I can give myself?"
You don't need to wait for things to slow down. Right now works. And if your mind is screaming that you don't have time, that's your body telling you this is exactly the moment you need it most.
There's a meditation saying: if you don't have 10 minutes to meditate, then you need 20 minutes. Let that one sit with you.
A few ideas you can do in under two minutes:
The Tea Pause: Make tea and actually sit down with it. Don't look at your email while it steeps. Just feel the warmth of the mug. (I'm in my tea era now, swapping out coffee because I never really enjoyed it. Earl Grey and mint are the current winners.) Research shows that holding something warm literally increases feelings of emotional warmth and connection.
The Power Song: Put on one song you can't sit still through. Instant mood shift. Music activates the same reward centres in your brain as food. It's that powerful.
The Fresh Air Break: Step outside for one minute of actual fresh air. Look at the sky. Even brief exposure to natural light helps regulate your circadian rhythm and improves mood.
The Nice Blanket: Get under the nice blanket. I crochet heavy, soft blankets for the people I love, the kind that feel like a gentle hug. If you have something like that tucked away for guests, pull it out for yourself. You count too. Deep pressure (like from a weighted blanket) can reduce cortisol by up to 30%.
The Three Breaths: Take three slow, purposeful breaths with your hands on your chest. You're reminding your body: I am here, in the present. Just three deep breaths can activate your parasympathetic nervous system, your body's natural "calm down" mechanism.
These won't fix your whole life. But they will shift something. And that shift is enough to change the tone of everything that follows.
Why This Actually Matters for Your Health
So what's the cost of skipping all this and just powering through?
Disrupted sleep (even one stressful day can affect your sleep for 2-3 nights). A weakened immune system (stressed people catch twice as many colds). Increased inflammation. Brain fog. Cravings for sugar and processed foods. The full package.
But here's what's interesting: small moments of intentional calm create a compound effect. One tiny joy leads to slightly lower stress, which makes the next stressor easier to handle, which creates more capacity for calm. It builds on itself.
You wouldn't run your car on empty and expect it to perform well. Your nervous system works the same way.
Three Ways to Soften When You Feel Stuck
When your mind gets stuck in that stress-and-to-do-list loop, your body is the fastest way to move forward. You don't need a workout. You just need a moment to remind your system it can let go.
Try these three tiny joy movements next time you feel the tension creeping in:
The Body Wake-Up: Arms overhead. Seriously lengthen your spine. Inhale big, and then let your shoulders drop dramatically on the exhale, like two weights hitting the floor. This activates your vagus nerve, the main highway between your brain and your body's relaxation response.
The 60-Second Shake-Out: Shake your hands, arms, shoulders, hips. Think of a dog shaking off bathwater. It feels silly, but it's a full-body tension release. Animals do this instinctively after stressful situations to discharge the stress from their bodies. We should too.
The Cozy Fold: Sit or stand, and simply fold forward. Let your head hang heavy. Breathe deep into your back and feel everything melt down toward the floor. Forward folds calm the nervous system by creating gentle compression on your organs and slowing your heart rate.
Every one of these sends the same message to your overwhelmed brain: You're okay. You can let go.
The Real Cost of Skipping the Small Stuff
A 2023 study found that people who regularly engage in small, positive daily rituals report 40% less anxiety than those who don't. That's not a small difference. That's life-changing.
But most of us skip these moments. Sometimes we think they're indulgent or unnecessary. Sometimes we tell ourselves we'll rest later, after everything is done. (Spoiler: everything is never done. Especially during the holidays.) And mostly? We just forget. We're on autopilot, moving from one task to the next without pausing.
Here's the irony: taking these tiny joy breaks actually makes you more effective. Your brain functions better when it gets micro-breaks. Your patience lasts longer. Your creativity increases. You make better decisions.
You're not wasting time by pausing. You're buying back your capacity to show up as yourself.
The Takeaway
Your life is full, and the holidays are loud. But your inner landscape doesn't have to match the chaos.
This year, ditch the exhausting search for "holiday cheer" and lean into the simple, profound power of tiny joys. They are the only fuel you actually need to feel like yourself again.
The big moments will happen or they won't. But the tiny joys? Those are yours. Every single day. Multiple times a day.
Start with one. Right now. What's one tiny joy you can give yourself in the next two minutes?
Your nervous system is waiting.
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