End-of-Febrary Check-In
6-minute read
A different kind of audit for the last weekend of February, because you don't need an overhaul. You might just need more of the good parts.
We're at the tail end of February and I'm going to skip the part where I ask if you're on track with your goals.
Instead, I have a different question: what's actually been working for you?
Not what you think you should be doing. Not what looks good on paper. What genuinely feels good in your life right now, even if it's small, even if nobody else would notice.
Because here's what I keep seeing, in myself and in the women I work with: we spend so much energy trying to fix what's broken that we completely forget to notice what's already right. We zoom in on the thing that isn't working and we miss the ten things that are.
So here's my end-of-February invitation. Stop fixing. Start favouriting. Like bookmarking the good parts of your life and making more room for them. That's the whole concept, and I think it might change more than you'd expect.
I started thinking about this a few weeks ago when I realized I'd been spending most of my energy on the stuff that stressed me out and almost none on the stuff that was actually going well. Sound familiar? We're so conditioned to problem-solve that we forget there's another option: just do more of what's already working. Revolutionary, I know.
The Question My Son Asked That I Couldn't Answer
Over Christmas, my son asked me something simple: what do you like most about what you do?
And I had nothing. Not immediately, anyway. I sort of fumbled through an answer, but nothing felt quite right. It was one of those questions that sounds easy until you actually try to answer it.
The thing is, it didn't go away. It just sat there, quietly working under the surface for weeks, until the answer finally showed up on its own.
It's the people.
I've been running group hypnosis sessions and an online live micro habits challenge, and the part that gives me a charge has nothing to do with content creation or planning or any of the behind-the-scenes stuff. It's the real-time interaction. Seeing someone's face change when something clicks. Watching shoulders drop during a session. Answering questions and knowing that this hour actually shifted something for someone.
That was my favouriting in action. I zoomed out, looked at everything I do, and instead of focusing on what I could improve or what wasn't working, I noticed what was already lighting me up. The answer had been right there the whole time. I just hadn't stopped long enough to see it.
Try This: The Zoom-Out Question
I'm passing my son's question along to you because I think it's a good one to sit with, especially right now.
What do you like most about what you do?
Not your job title. Not your list of responsibilities. The specific part that gives you energy. Maybe it's the creative piece. Maybe it's the people. Maybe it's the quiet mornings before anyone else is up. Maybe you don't know yet, and that's fine too. Let the question follow you around for a bit. It'll find its answer.
What Your Body Is Actually Asking For Right Now
If you're still recovering from that gold medal hockey game, same. As Canadians, the Winter Olympics aren't just background noise. That game was personal. We collectively needed a nap. Or a hug.
But the Olympics are over now, winter is still very much here, and your body has been carrying you through all of it. The short days, the freezing temperatures, that heavy grey feeling that makes everything feel like it takes twice the effort.
Before you start thinking about spring fitness plans or March movement goals, try flipping the question. Instead of "what should I be doing," ask yourself what your body is actually asking for right now.
Warmth. If your body is craving warmth, lean into that. A heated yoga class. A long bath after a walk. Even wrapping your hands around a hot cup of something and sitting still for five minutes.
Daylight. The sun is sticking around a little longer each day now. Even a few extra minutes of light can shift your mood and your energy. Get outside when it's there, even if it's just to stand on your front step.
Energy. Sometimes the movement that actually gives you energy is way gentler than you'd expect. A slow walk. Some stretching on the floor. You don't always need intensity to feel better.
Fun. Put on a playlist and move for one song. A dinner prep dance party is a legitimate workout in my house, and I'm not accepting arguments on this.
The point isn't to push harder. It's to listen. Spring is coming, and your body probably knows it before your brain does.
Favouriting Your Food (And a Recipe That Proves It)
While we're on the topic of doing more of what works, let's talk about food for a second.
Favouriting your food means finding the things that are nourishing and delicious and leaning into those instead of constantly trying to fix your eating habits. If you've been following along on my Instagram, you already saw the protein peanut butter banana mousse I posted this week. Think Reese's Peanut Butter Cups, but make it health food.
The secret ingredient is tofu, and before you close this tab, hear me out. You genuinely cannot taste it. What you get is a thick, creamy, peanut buttery mousse that tastes like dessert and actually keeps you full. Five ingredients. Five minutes. Top it with granola, chocolate chips, or sliced banana and you've got yourself something that feels like a full-on treat but is packed with protein.
That's what favouriting looks like when it comes to food. You don't need to overhaul your kitchen or meal prep for six hours on a Sunday. You just need a few go-to options that make you feel good and taste good. Then you do more of those.
Why I'm Still Taking Courses
I've been taking continuing education courses recently. Not because I had to. Because I wanted to.
Getting another perspective on what I've already been taught, hearing familiar concepts through a completely different lens, I find that really valuable. It keeps everything fresh. And honestly? I still find it stimulating. After years of doing this work, that feels like something worth protecting.
It would be easy to coast on what's familiar. To decide I know enough and just keep doing what I've always done. But there's something about choosing to stay curious that keeps everything feeling alive.
And here's the part I want you to hear: you're allowed to be excited about something that's just for you. You don't need to justify signing up for a class, picking up a new hobby, or diving into something that has nothing to do with your kids or your job or your to-do list. Doing something because you want to is a complete reason.
You're still becoming. You're still evolving. And that's not a sign that something is missing. It's a sign that you're paying attention.
Your Only Assignment for March
As we head into a new month, I'm not going to give you a list of things to do. No goals. No reset. No overhaul.
Just one question: what do you want more of?
Not less of. Not what to cut, not what to fix, not what to finally get around to. What's already good that deserves more of your attention?
Maybe it's a meal that makes you feel amazing. Maybe it's time with a specific person. Maybe it's the part of your work that lights you up. Maybe it's getting outside when the sun is shining, or learning something new, or just having five quiet minutes with a cup of tea.
Whatever it is, that's your favourite. Bookmark it. Protect it. Build your March around it.
